Went downstairs for a drink at the coffee shop before bedtime... sitting beside our regular table was a bunch of Ah Bengs... had never seen them before.
The moment I sat down, I notice one of them kept glimpsing at me. Initially I thought he was the guy whom was working at the mobile cart down my block but after a few looks at him, he wasnt the one.
While browsing through facebook, timeline shows one of my colleague with a lady who I knew many years back. Continue browsing through her photos, I saw another familiar face. He was the one who I had wanted to keep in touch since secondary 3. Going through his recent photos, I couldnt recognise him at all, his face was plumper. He has 2 very cute boys and a very pretty wife (I wonder if she (Spider) was the one whom I heard he married).
It was that moment I recall the glimpsing scenario few days back... that guy in the photo looks like the guy sitting at the next table. He was short like him... but I didnt notice if any tattoos was on him like what I saw in FB.
I am starting to think how life make fun of us... that person who you so much wants to know of his whereabouts was just a few FB pages away from you, a table next to you and when you came face to face with him, you couldnt recognise him.
I asked myself... if given another chance, you see him at the coffee shop... will you go up to him and ask if he was Junwei? No was the answer!
How I wanted to laugh at myself... where has all the thoughts of wanting to talk with him went to? Was it because I fear he didnt have the same thoughts as mine?
http://m.facebook.com/?_rdr#!/BigBear1981
Glimpsing at me...
Thursday, April 25, 2013
*Ring* : 9:44 pm
*Ring* : 9:44 pm
A bit quiet...
Friday, November 30, 2012
*Ring* : 9:55 pm
*Ring* : 9:55 pm
Evon noticed i was a bit 'quiet' for Friday, not the usual energetic Friday-Ivy.
I didnt realised that i did signal some abnormality but somehow she can sense it.
Dad was having his down days recently... he told Sis that he has left with no friends since stroke strikes him and maybe a few more year and he will die and leave us. The right part of his limbs are still not up to his expectation and soon it will hit the 2 years benchmark of no improvement.
Without him having to say... we do know that he feels bored sitting at home watching TV most of the time, he miss driving, he miss working and he miss the days where everyone calls for his presence. But now, besides going for Physio-therapy 3 times a week, he has nothing to keep him busy. Soon, if the rehabitation center finds there isnt any area for improvement, they will had to discharge him. How will he be able to adjust and accept?
Where are the friends when those glory days were gone? The disability to keep up with the usual social activities will make them drift away from you. Everyone has their own thing to do... needless to say, who will be willing to slow down the walking pace with you?
Sis cursed stroke for striking our dear father arm and causing him unable to work (to work and be busy is his real passion and it is what he calls LIFE)... although he is more close to us now but seeing him unhappy... We rather such closeness be reverse as it pains us to see him this way!
Damn the stroke! Be strong Pa-pi!
Luckily there is little apple-polish nephew (Jerald), dad favorite past time joy cum toy... but at times drives him nuts too!
I'm a type 7...
Thursday, September 13, 2012
*Ring* : 7:11 pm
*Ring* : 7:11 pm
Type Seven is spontaneous, versatile, acquisitive, and scattered.
My Wing - Type 6 & 8...
My Healthy State (Growth) - Type 5, My Unhealthy State - Type 1
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Or know as The Epicure.
Point Seven, the third member of the fear triad of Five, Six and Seven is known as the Epicure or the Generalist and sometimes has been called the Adventurer.
The Seven, unlike the Five who usually withdraws inward into the freeing and fascinating world of the mind, often moves outward to taste the many fascinating and sometimes adventurous ways of engaging life in its many manifestations. But like the Five, the Seven also is a "head type" and favors the experiences of the mind over the body. For in the mind, life can unfold according to the delights of the imagination.
The passion is "gluttony", an unquenchable appetite for new experiences, and the fixation is "planning", a habitual way of focusing attention on the many pleasant possibilities for the future including options and backup plans.
Words frequently associated with the Seven include hedonist, permissiveness, wish fulfillment, narcissism, fun, excitement, enthusiastic, shallow and happiness.
The primary character traits of the Seven, which are experienced to a lessor or greater extent by virtue of the Seven's subtype and the influence of it's wing points, include but are not limited to:
Gluttony:
This is a gluttony for experience and enjoyment. Being active with lots of projects. Over doing and overbooked. Experiencing "a little bit of the very finest of everything". Endless possibilities, many interests. Not staying with one thing too long in case it might get boring, and "boring is death".
Charming:
Outgoing, playful, energetic, engaging, easy laughter (but sometimes with a slightly nervous edge).
Playful:
Life is an adventure. Life is to be enjoyed. A desire to have fun.
Commitment:
Difficulty with commitment, not wanting limits. "I don't believe in limitations." "Keep the door open at any price". "I can make a commitment. I'll stay in the relationship until one or the other of us decides it's time to move on."
Variety:
A man makes a commitment to be an architect, and his weeks and months of imaginative planning and design are filled with one new house after another.
Fascination:
Many interests. An active imagination that easily juggles fascinating inter-relating and inter-connecting ideas and possibilities.
Monkey-mind:
The ability to easily and rapidly shift one's attention from one idea or set of ideas to another and at the same time see the inter-connectedness of the complexity of thoughts and how these thoughts will all come together into a cohesive reality.
"I notice that the reason it seems I jump from one thing to the next is that I usually fail to make known to others the connections of my thoughts. It makes sense to me because I alone know the thread. Maybe we'll be talking about dinner and I'll think about the other couple that invited us to dinner, then I'll picture the other couple in their house the last time we saw each other and I'll remember that they had a nice house and what I like about it. Then I'll think about how I especially like their balcony and how I hope that someday we can get one. That last part is the only part I'll say. It makes sense to me and would to someone else, if I bothered to fill them in.......but that takes too long. :)" -- Amy
Reframing:
The ability to deftly take the proposition of another and play it back in the context or nomenclature of the Seven's point of view. To the other, it seems as if what the Seven plays back "is almost like what I said but somehow different and I wonder if it even has the same meaning?"
Rationalizing:
A talk style which is a way of explaining one's behavior even when no explanation is called for.
Narcissism:
Feeling entitled. Presenting a superior position. "I like me." "I'm OK, so if there's a problem here it must not be me." A Seven panelists in a rapid-fire comeback says something like, "I used to be like that (the other sevens), but now that I'm more evolved my experience is much different."
Active:
The Seven leads a busy life filled with telephone calls, appointments, dates, social engagements, errands, plans and projects. Over-booked and a full plate. With all the activity, a Seven can look like a Three, who's activity is in the context of achievement and results; or like a Two, who's activity is in the context of giving. But the Seven's activity is in the context of the fun or fascination to be derived from the immediate experience while the mind is planning the next.
Pain:
"I stay busy to avoid the pain." "It just doesn't seem to be there." A move off of pain and on to positive options for the future.
Self-aware:
Sevens typically know what they want. Like the rest of us, they have many selves (sub-personalities) but those selves are in reference or response to the Seven and his or her interests and not to others or how others may perceive them.
http://www.ennea.com/types/enntypes.htm
http://www.ennea.com/types/enntypes.htm
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Thanks for MDIS (Ms Rachpal), i know my type...
The Riso-Hudson Quest - Select the paragraph that your 'gut feeling' says is the right one for you, even though you may not agree with 100 percent of it. Go with your initution. If you cannot decide which paragraph best fits you in one of the groups, you may make two choices, but only in one group.
Group 1
A. I have tended to be fairly independant and assertive: I've felt that life works best when you meet it head-on. I set my own goals, get involved, and want to make things happen. I dont like sitting around - I want to achieve somethng big and have an impact. I dont neccessarily seek confortation, but i dont let people push me around, either. Most of the time i know what i want, and i go for it. I tend to work hard and to play hard.
B. I have tended to be quiet and am used to being on my own. I usually dont draw much attention to myself socially, and its generally unusual for me to assert myself all that forcefully. I dont feel comfortable taking the lead or being as competitveness as others. Many would probably say that i'm something of a dreamer - a lot of my excitment goes on n my imagination. I can be quite content without feeling i have to be active all the time.
C. I have tended to be extremely responsible and dedicated. I feel terrible if i dont keep my commitments and do what's expected of me. I want people to know that i'm there for them and that i'll do what i believe is best for them. i've often made great personal sacrifices for the sake of others, whether they know it or not. I often dont take adequate care of myself - i do the work that needs to be done and relax (and do what i really want) if there's time left.
Group 2
X. I am a person who usually maintains a positive outlook and feels that things will work out for the best. i can usually fnd something to be ethusiastic about and different ways to occupy myself. I like being around people and helping others to be happy - i enjoy sharing my own well-being with them. (i dont always feel great, but i try not to show it to anyone!) However, staying positive has something meant that i've put off dealing with my own problems for too long.
Y. am a person who has strong feelings about things - most people can tell when i'm unhappy about something. i can be guarded with people, but i'm more sensitive than i let on. i want to know where i stand with others and who and what i can count on - Its pretty clear to most people where they stand with me. when i'm upset about something, i want others to respond and to get as worked up as i am. i know the rules, but i dont want people telling me what ti do. i want to decide for myself.
Z. I tend to be self-controlled and logical - i am uncomfortable dealing with feelings. i am efficient - even perfectionistic - and prefer working on my own. when there are problems or personal conflicts, i try not to being my feelings into the situation. Some say - i'm too cool and detached, but i dont want my emotion reactions to distract me from what's really important to me. I usually dont show my recations when others "get to me".
2-Digit Code / Type / Type Name and Key Characteristics
AX - 7 - The Enthusiast: Upbeat, Accomplised, Impulsive
AY - 8 - The Challenger: Self-confident, Decisive, Domineering
AZ - 3 - The Achiever: Adpatable, Ambitious, Image-conscious
BX - 9 - The Peacemaker - Receptive, Reassuring, Complacent
BY - 4 - The Individualist: Intuitive, Aesthetic, Self-absorbed
BZ - 5 - The Inveigator: Perceptive, Innovative, Detached
CX - 2 - The Helper - Caring, Generous, Possessive
CY - 6 - Engaging, Responsible, Defensive
CZ - 1 - The Reformer: Rational, Principled, Self Controlled.
There isnt any type good or bad typed - The am of this work is to stop the automatic reactions of the personality by bringing awareness to it. Only by bringing insight and clarity to the mechanisims of personality can we awaken!
The more we see the mechanical reactions of our personality, the less identified with them we become and the more freedom we have.
This is what Enneagram is all about.
The Riso-Hudson Quest - Select the paragraph that your 'gut feeling' says is the right one for you, even though you may not agree with 100 percent of it. Go with your initution. If you cannot decide which paragraph best fits you in one of the groups, you may make two choices, but only in one group.
Group 1
A. I have tended to be fairly independant and assertive: I've felt that life works best when you meet it head-on. I set my own goals, get involved, and want to make things happen. I dont like sitting around - I want to achieve somethng big and have an impact. I dont neccessarily seek confortation, but i dont let people push me around, either. Most of the time i know what i want, and i go for it. I tend to work hard and to play hard.
B. I have tended to be quiet and am used to being on my own. I usually dont draw much attention to myself socially, and its generally unusual for me to assert myself all that forcefully. I dont feel comfortable taking the lead or being as competitveness as others. Many would probably say that i'm something of a dreamer - a lot of my excitment goes on n my imagination. I can be quite content without feeling i have to be active all the time.
C. I have tended to be extremely responsible and dedicated. I feel terrible if i dont keep my commitments and do what's expected of me. I want people to know that i'm there for them and that i'll do what i believe is best for them. i've often made great personal sacrifices for the sake of others, whether they know it or not. I often dont take adequate care of myself - i do the work that needs to be done and relax (and do what i really want) if there's time left.
Group 2
X. I am a person who usually maintains a positive outlook and feels that things will work out for the best. i can usually fnd something to be ethusiastic about and different ways to occupy myself. I like being around people and helping others to be happy - i enjoy sharing my own well-being with them. (i dont always feel great, but i try not to show it to anyone!) However, staying positive has something meant that i've put off dealing with my own problems for too long.
Y. am a person who has strong feelings about things - most people can tell when i'm unhappy about something. i can be guarded with people, but i'm more sensitive than i let on. i want to know where i stand with others and who and what i can count on - Its pretty clear to most people where they stand with me. when i'm upset about something, i want others to respond and to get as worked up as i am. i know the rules, but i dont want people telling me what ti do. i want to decide for myself.
Z. I tend to be self-controlled and logical - i am uncomfortable dealing with feelings. i am efficient - even perfectionistic - and prefer working on my own. when there are problems or personal conflicts, i try not to being my feelings into the situation. Some say - i'm too cool and detached, but i dont want my emotion reactions to distract me from what's really important to me. I usually dont show my recations when others "get to me".
2-Digit Code / Type / Type Name and Key Characteristics
AX - 7 - The Enthusiast: Upbeat, Accomplised, Impulsive
AY - 8 - The Challenger: Self-confident, Decisive, Domineering
AZ - 3 - The Achiever: Adpatable, Ambitious, Image-conscious
BX - 9 - The Peacemaker - Receptive, Reassuring, Complacent
BY - 4 - The Individualist: Intuitive, Aesthetic, Self-absorbed
BZ - 5 - The Inveigator: Perceptive, Innovative, Detached
CX - 2 - The Helper - Caring, Generous, Possessive
CY - 6 - Engaging, Responsible, Defensive
CZ - 1 - The Reformer: Rational, Principled, Self Controlled.
There isnt any type good or bad typed - The am of this work is to stop the automatic reactions of the personality by bringing awareness to it. Only by bringing insight and clarity to the mechanisims of personality can we awaken!
The more we see the mechanical reactions of our personality, the less identified with them we become and the more freedom we have.
This is what Enneagram is all about.
I turned a freak out "Cougar"...
Monday, August 27, 2012
*Ring* : 11:50 pm
*Ring* : 11:50 pm
Why do i always have to allow complicating issues to befall on me? Got to know a young NS chap (7 years younger) waiting for his operationally ready date this December few months back!
Alright one night of hard-core drinking ends up returning his kiss and holding hands (cant deny that i do like him). Waking up, fully soble on the 2nd day had me hit my forehead umpteen times! What have i done? The thought of having a younger boyfriend than myself freaks me out and things progressed too fast.
Thinking what's done cannot be undone and clinging on to the hope that he will realise that i am far too old to be together, i told myself to try it out. Its better for him to says he makes a mistake rather than having me to say it out first. I know this defination doesnt makes any sense at all!
This trying out... is when things gets super-duper complicated! But, it ended in less than a week!
He was not the kind of guy who likes to talk on the phone but a text-messaging person (i am not good in text messaging as many times people might misunderstand what you actually means... Anyway, he didnt knows about it)... he simple dislikes the awakard silent when conversation runs out. I totally understand this feeling he has as i too felt the same way. We are just not good in holding on to the phone, feeling the ear gets hotter each minute and switching to the other ear and squeezing out new topics.
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I picked on him for always texting me and not calling and in turns makes me thinks he is setting too much restrictions... but he wrote the most beautiful reply (must have crack his head) i ever seen: he is willing to try it out just for me. He even told me at times he has to retype and read through the message before senting it out to me... in fear that i get mistaken and get angry at him.
And when he didnt text or call me the whole day, i got angry at his reply (which i find it lame)... i was gaming and you know it from the start - I will lost myself whenever i start gaming. I was damn pissed off by his reply! Its either gaming is more important than me or he simply dont care if i exist!
The last straw torn me down when he got drunk one night and tries messaging me in sentences that didnt make any sense... the next morning he text back the most saddening reply to answer my question on what he is writing.
Everytime i want to text you, i hesitated. Everytime we start texting, we ended up quarreling.
Trust me, I felt damn lousy and so misunderstood to make him feel this way. I was shattered!!! This isnt what i wanted out of him or us... I had hurt him and this was when i decided i must end the relationship and salvage what i can.
I called to meet up with him, say i really cant make myself to be with him and we can never work out this way... He was mature enough and asked if this is what i want... i say yes and he respect my decision. Things ended nicely... Phew! If it could lessen my guilt, i would want to think that maybe this was what he also wanted. Why would a young guy wish to be with an older lady like me? No nice figure, small breast, no natural beauty, not gentle, smoker (he was a smoker too), not ladylike, swears and acting like an asshole!
Close friends asked me not to call and text him after the breakup (he never did text me after, i was always the one initiating). I must say it wasnt easy holding back... somehow i do miss him. At times i felt like its killing me inside if i dont see his text... at times, due to face value i hold back in texting him...
I could stop all form of communication right that instance once i term that person a jerk but he wasnt a jerk to me... I am the one who is being the "Asshole" and i do wish to keep this friendship... but i need time to adjust before placing him into friends zone.
Must i really learn things the hard way? Must i wait for the day to come when he dont even reply to my messages and had my pride spilled on the floor which i always held so dear... Cant i simply let it go and stop texting him? Maybe the reason why he hasnt initiate any form of communication is because he realise the mistake due to a moment of folly? At times i feel... why cant he be a bastard and stop replying to my messages (maybe he is so bored in camp, thats why he msg me back - Hahaha!) and put a stop to me missing him... maybe i can handle it better.
I do miss that killer smile of his... the way we tease each others... the days we laugh together and those days which i was so careful not to step across that thin line of falling for him... but now, gone were the day!!! I do regretted why didnt i have the courage to fight it out with him and makeup (not make out) later...
Hell this is damn confusing, i really dont know what i want! Is there any right or wrong in handling relationship issues?
Below an article i chanced upon... was it a plain coincident or it has always been there but such article didnt catch my attention till i am in this situation. Hell this is damn confusing, i really dont know what i want! Is there any right or wrong in handling relationship issues?
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Unequal expectations
A young man assumes that the older woman comes with a set of past emotional baggage while the woman thinks the man is out to broaden his experience in the dating game. A relationship based on these assumptions cannot really even begin in earnest unless both partners can overcome such prejudices.
Generation gap
The 20-year-old guy will never understand why she is not interested in his favourite ‘Transformers’ series while she’ll wonder what is wrong with ABBA songs. And these are just examples from popular culture. At each step, overcoming the generation step can be an arduous task for both people without any solution in sight.
Masked reasons
You may be in the relationship to score with the neighbourhood aunty and brag about it with your friends, but the aunty will have a whole set of reasons that she will never be able to talk about with you. This is because she feels you’re immature to understand her problems. Also, she doesn’t want to use you as a crutch, but rather as a tool. If you begin to fall for her, consider the affair doomed.
Not living up
Because of all her previous experiences, a woman is bound to look at her latest man with a little bit of exasperation. It is very difficult for the man to live up to the best standards of all her previous attachments, the yardstick by which she’s subconsciously judging him. The worst mistake the guy can make is defend himself by using his own young age as an excuse for his inexperience in dealing with issues in the relationship. It is important to broaden and hold that vision when you’re in a relationship with an older woman.
Acceptability
Remember how three best friends had to break their friendship when Akshaye Khanna confessed his love for a much older Dimple Kapadia in ‘Dil Chahta Hai’? The truth is that society judges us for all our relationship choices and dating an older woman is right at the top of the never-attempt-to-do list. Going down this road will only lead to social isolation and unless you’re strong enough to bear the jibes, you’ll become a wreck.
While not all May-November relationships turn into a wreck, it is important to know that most of them have a very slight chance of working, especially in a conservative society like India. It’s a minefield that needs careful navigation every waking second of your life.
Are you better off without?
Thursday, April 05, 2012
*Ring* : 8:51 pm
*Ring* : 8:51 pm
A nice article - In Blue are what i agrees with!
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Always remember that although happiness comes from within, when you are exposed to people who make you unhappy for whatever reason, you will be unhappy at that moment.
It does not remove your core happiness, but it certainly shakes it.
Relationships are probably the most difficult aspect of our lives, simply because they go into the core of our emotional being.
However, when you are with a person who seems to drain you, something's wrong.
When someone values you, they uplift you; they do not put you down. When someone honors you, they respect you.
When you are with a lover, friend, co-worker or anyone who invalidates you as a person, it is time to let go-even if you are married to that person.
Sounds drastic, but it's true. If you are not cherished by a friend or lover, that person no longer serves your higher purpose. This is, of course, after you have exhausted all measures to save the relationship.
However, if after countless tries the relationship does not get better, you are better off alone in your core happiness. This is one very hard lesson I have learned just recently.
No matter how you feel whole as a person, if someone very close to you does not make room for you in his or her life, you are not valued by that person.
That creates unhappiness. When someone does not see your worth and simply sees your faults, no matter how happy you are within, you will feel degraded.
If someone cherishes you, you will know, and he/she will go out of his/her way to show you. There's no need to demand for their time, because it will be given you.
Emotionally damaging
This is a hard lesson to learn and even more difficult to accept, because if you love and treasure someone and it is not reciprocated, it can be very emotionally damaging.
This is a hard lesson to learn and even more difficult to accept, because if you love and treasure someone and it is not reciprocated, it can be very emotionally damaging.
And the most difficult thing in the world to do is to let go of someone you care about.
But remember, self-love is not self-flagellation, nor is it martydom. Self-love is honoring yourself above all, and if you are not honored in return you are definitely with the wrong person.
You end up demanding their time and attention, and in the end feel bad about yourself for doing so because it is simply not who you are.
So ask yourself, is being with this person making me a better person? Am I growing and flourishing as a person by being with him or her? Or am I losing who I am in the process of trying to keep the relationship intact?
Only you can honestly answer these. And finally, ask yourself, is being with the person leading me toward the person I ultimately want to become? The answers will be as clear as day. The challenge is to actually see it through.
But remember, if you are in the wrong company, you are simply not loving yourself, and you are giving yourself to someone who does not deserve you.
The objective is to be whole and happy within yourself and not allow anyone to destroy or diminish it.
It is definitely easier said than done, and a long period of discernment is necessary. But in the end, your self-worth should come above all.
And finally, know that those who truly love you will never abandon you. They will always keep their word and will never be dishonest with you, and those are the people you should invest time and effort in. Those are the people who deserve your love.
Year 2012 is the mission year. This means that anyone who decides to find and fulfill his life's mission will do so this year. So start by loving yourself in a spiritual sense first and foremost, and everything else will follow.
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The Lady
Wednesday, March 21, 2012
*Ring* : 3:20 pm
*Ring* : 3:20 pm
A nice show by Michelle Yeoh
I cant remember when i started getting curious over politics. For my kind of character, politics just isnt my topic and scandal is the last thig i am interested to know.... but Dr. Suu Kyi happens to catch my attention since many years back.
It could be that true love story behind her... It could also be the curious part of me to want to find out the many reasons why she had choose or kept away from her husband and kids.
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Hans Wagner
Monday, September 12, 2011
*Ring* : 8:30 am
*Ring* : 8:30 am
Tears welled up upon reading this email... managed well not to let them fall through the eyeline. The silent impulse in me wanted so much to fly over to Houston right this minute and meet up with my dear old friend.
Hans is regarded as one of my good friend during my stay in RIO, someone whom never fails to visit me whenever he fly down to Rio for business trip. He and his wife (whom i never met before) shows concern towards making my neccesity needs in Rio more comfortable, often asking what i need in Rio and i could not get? Remembering Hans bringing a rice cooker (110V) for me when my 220V so decided to stop boiling rice for me.
It has been 4 year since i know him (dont even have a photo of him), whenever the month of May gets nearer... he would extend his invitation to me to attend the Wagner party (usually a day before OTC), meant for his suppliers, partners, subordinates and friends. Should i say Yes, i am coming, he will do up all the pickup and loging arrangement in return for my attendance. Sadly, each year i failed to fly over to Houston to meet up with him and his family.
Since the start of the year, i had told myself that i would like to travel out to some places which snows during Christmas... If things goes smoothly, i know where i will be heading this year end - a personal visit to meet up with Hans and family... It has never came across me to visit him when he is not in his best but i really do miss him and wish to hear his laughters. Lets see how it goes...
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Hello Ivy!
Wow, you Singaporeans really know how to live it up, good show!
Ivy, the reason why I have been relatively quiet the last couple of months is that my cancer has made another appearance and I am undergoing therapy, a specific form of chemo. I have a renal carcinoma on my left rib on my left side, a tumor called clear cell carcinoma, about 20 mm. They detected it during a routine checkup. The medication does not make you very energetic and the side effects are no fun either. But, this coming Thursday is the end of my first round and I should be feeling better in no time at all, at least that is what the manufacturer of the medication says.
Keep the mails coming, sooner or later I will get to it, and I will always respond to your messages.
Take good care of yourself!
Hans & Theresa
P.S. I will send the pictures from the 2011 ClampOn Party soon, you missed a good one, but you already knew that.
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From: Ivy Soh [KFE-COM] [mailto:ivy.soh@keppelfels.com]
Sent: Tuesday, September 06, 2011 8:59 PM
To: Hans Wagner
Subject: RE: Greetings...
Ha – I am back to SIN.
Randomly photo-shoot.
Gate-Crash = We dare anyone who takes the bride... Challenge the bride army!
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Hello Ivy!
Wow, you Singaporeans really know how to live it up, good show!
Ivy, the reason why I have been relatively quiet the last couple of months is that my cancer has made another appearance and I am undergoing therapy, a specific form of chemo. I have a renal carcinoma on my left rib on my left side, a tumor called clear cell carcinoma, about 20 mm. They detected it during a routine checkup. The medication does not make you very energetic and the side effects are no fun either. But, this coming Thursday is the end of my first round and I should be feeling better in no time at all, at least that is what the manufacturer of the medication says.
Keep the mails coming, sooner or later I will get to it, and I will always respond to your messages.
Take good care of yourself!
Hans & Theresa
P.S. I will send the pictures from the 2011 ClampOn Party soon, you missed a good one, but you already knew that.
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From: Ivy Soh [KFE-COM] [mailto:ivy.soh@keppelfels.com]
Sent: Tuesday, September 06, 2011 8:59 PM
To: Hans Wagner
Subject: RE: Greetings...
Ha – I am back to SIN.
Randomly photo-shoot.
Gate-Crash = We dare anyone who takes the bride... Challenge the bride army!
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From: Ivy Soh [KFE-COM]
Sent: Wednesday, August 31, 2011 3:46 PM
To: 'Hans Wagner'
Subject: RE: Greetings...
Hi Hans,
Its been quite sometime since OTC… I thought you say you would sent me some photos regarding the party / exhibition?
I am travelling to Bali this weekend to attend a wedding as a bridesmaid.
How is your health? Hope all is fine. Send my regards to your wife too…
Beijos,
Labels: Blog
Prescriptive and Goal Setting Approaches.
Monday, July 11, 2011
*Ring* : 10:57 am
*Ring* : 10:57 am
Two slides which i find rather intesting and related to my job during the recent forum which i attended.
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Forum on Marine Environment
Monday, June 27, 2011
*Ring* : 3:00 pm
*Ring* : 3:00 pm
Will be attending the forum tomorrow...
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Forum on Marine Environment
Organised by
The Joint Branch of the RINA and the IMarEST (Singapore), Society of Naval Architects and Marine Engineers Singapore
and
Ngee Ann Polytechnic, Technology Development Office, Centre of Innovation - Marine & Offshore Technology
“How Should the Marine Industry Respond to
Environmental Impact?”
By Professor Chengi KUO
University of Strathclyde, United Kingdom
Date : Tuesday, 28th June 2011
Time : 6:15 pm to 7:00 pm Registration & Refreshments
Talk begins at 7:00 p.m. and ends at 8:15 p.m.
Venue : Lecture Theatre 68E, Ngee Ann Polytechnic
Panel Chairman: Mr Tan Kim Pong, Director, Centre of Innovation,
Marine & Offshore Technology, Ngee Ann Polytechnic
Members : Mr, James Ashworth, President, Joint Branch Royal Institute of the Naval Architects and Marine Engineers, Singapore
Mr AK Seah, Vice President, Technology and Business Development,
ABS, Pacific Division Southern Region
Mr Kenneth Kee, President, SNAMES
Please see the attached documents for the abstract of the talk and biography of the speaker.
For registration, please confirm with Mr Thomas Ng by Friday, 17th June 2011 via the reply slip.
Woon Kok Meng
For Technical Committee
Joint Branch (RINA-IMarEST), Singapore
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ABSTRACT
How Should the Marine Industry Respond to Environmental Impact?
Everyone has an appreciation of safety and environmental pollution. Indeed, safety definitions involve the term “harm” which implies injuries to people, damage to property and pollution of the environment. In practice more attention has been paid to the former two features. The exception being, for example, the grounding of tanker Exxon Vadiz in Alaska in which 0.25 million tonnes of oil were discharged. This in turn led to the formulating and passing of the Oil Pollution Act 1990. This situation can no longer be the same after the explosion of Deepwater Horizon in the Gulf of Mexico in April 2010. There were with loss of lives and significant discharging of oil into the sea from the Macondo well which was only terminated after successful capping. The challenge for the operators and the governments is to introduce balanced solutions that will allow continued offshore activities while preventing repetitions or minimising the risk of pollution. The purpose of this seminar is to examine the implications this accident for the marine industry.
The forum begins by highlighting the accident of Deepwater Horizon semi submersible while drilling in the Gulf of Mexico following failure of the blowout preventer over the well in Macondo field. It then goes on to discuss the basic issues before reviewing how environmental impact (EI) is likely to be addressed in the offshore oil and gas industry. The EI treatment in the marine industry is then reviewed. The contributions of prescriptive regulatory and EIA (Environmental Impact Assessment) methods are then examined. An approach, called Enhanced Safety Case, is described and its method of integrating EI with safety management summarised together with how it can be applied in the marine industry. Opportunities for the marine industry in contributing to minimising EI will be outlined. Key issues will be discussed and conclusions drawn.
Professor Chengi KUO
B Sc, PhD, C Eng, FRINA, FSUT, FRSE
Professor Kuo is an academic motivated by the challenge of providing innovative teaching and applying research advances to practice in a number of subject areas. Graduated from the University of Glasgow, he pioneered the application of computers to ship design and shipbuilding on the Clyde in the 1960’s. He then gained experience working in U.S.A on propeller-excited vibration. On his return to Scotland he joined the University of Strathclyde with responsibility for developing postgraduate education and research. He became a Professor in 1972 - the first person of Chinese origin to hold such a position in UK.
Notable achievements over this period include the following:
- He built and led a team to study ship stability and organized the First International Conference on Stability of Ship and Ocean Vehicles in 1975 and his initiatives have enabled the subject to become a recognized research topic by the industry and marine research community.
In all the areas of his interests he has gained international recognition.
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Eat Pray Love???
Sunday, April 03, 2011
*Ring* : 10:10 am
*Ring* : 10:10 am
19 Feb - Received a wedding invitation.
Wedding Date: 3 Sept 2011 (Sat)
3 April - decided on staying @ this loving villa!
http://www.royaltyvillas.com/home.php?act=photogallery&p=more&rcode=7
http://www.royaltyvillas.com/home.php?act=photogallery&p=more&rcode=7
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My 1st Wedding ceremony overseas... Bro is also invited.
Recalling the movie Eat Pray Love... maybe myself & bro could meet up with the Guru?
Recalling the movie Eat Pray Love... maybe myself & bro could meet up with the Guru?
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宗教信仰于置信...???
Wednesday, March 02, 2011
*Ring* : 9:00 pm
*Ring* : 9:00 pm
10 days and counting...
Thursday, February 10, 2011
*Ring* : 7:54 pm
*Ring* : 7:54 pm
We (Mum, Sis, Bro, Ah Zhong & nephew) were all prepared to drive up to Klang after dinner tomorrow to visit Mum hometown (Its a yearly thing). Bro volunteeredd to pick up the rented car this morning. Jessie will be picked up by the Pet Hotel tomorrow morning.
It was about lunch time when Bro called and informed that he has picked up the car but he is on his way to Tan Tock Seng as he recieved a call from the stall aunty saying Dad fainted at the stall and was sent to the hospital by the ambulance.
I panicked... remembering seeing him rubbing his tummy this morning when i was opening the gate to go work, he smile and reply he has diahorroea. Told him to see a doctor later on and off i went to work. Bro drove me in Dad's car as i was late...
Lunch was miserable, kept calling home but no one picks up the calls. And when Sis called to says that the doctor informed that Dad has a bad stroke, my heart sunk!!! We were asked to make decision on whether to authorise the 'booster' jab while successful will add 15 - 30% of chance to clear the blockage but risking internal bleeding which is undesirable. We agree to go ahead as we believe Dad will want to gamble on even the sligest percentage!
It has been 9 days... Waking up early to run Dad stall and return home late, visiting him twice daily, fetching Mum to the hospital... seeing him totally concious and desperate to talk and move his limbs, trying hard to understand the sound he made, seeing him in a sunken state, tolerating the lack of nurses and hospitality towards taking care of Dad... Tears just well up whenever i thought of it!
PHEW!!! That rented car was a blessing... Thanks to P4 for getting it at a cheap rate for me during CNY period.
Dad condition is stable, the come and go fever has subsided and got transferred to the rehabitation center yesterday. He has to start building up his lost strenght fast and speech and the 1st month is crucial.
With Sis & Bro running the stall now, Mum looking after the nephew and me working... WE NEED A CARETAKER!!!!
The few person that came to my mind instantly was Zeon, Rachel, Larry and Ashley! These are among the few friends whom i know will take on my problem whenever i voice out to them to recommend some maid agencies. I dont have time to do my own searching online as i was totally occupied and does not have internet access during the whole week driving up and down...
Been to a maid agency at Adelphi yesterday but the 2 'transit' maid didnt meet the family needs or i should say... 有一好没两. Those that speaks English although strong, looks like 'party' queen. Those that looks suitable doesnt speak English... although my Mum does speaks English and i do speak limited Malay... I still think i should go another agency before deciding! It was the 1st time the whole family agree in having a maid! In the past, we never wanted to have one in respect to family privacy.
Friends had been rather concern but it comes along with crude jokes in between when they dont understand why i didnt went to M'sia and after knowing - biting their own tongue (All Guys and not surprising to know)... the repetition of asking about my Dad condition and progress... I can only look and them and say... Like a typical stroke patient you see!
Went to work today... processing each paper work was SLOW, ignoring all phone calls! Jumping to reach my handphone whenever it rangs... KNN is the best word to express my day at work today and cursing and swearing softly at each mistake i made!!!
Thinking back... i would had break down if it wasnt that usual strong will power which helps to keeps me going...
Looking forward to see Dad walk, move his hands and talk again!
Have a speedy recovery...
God Bless!!!
It was about lunch time when Bro called and informed that he has picked up the car but he is on his way to Tan Tock Seng as he recieved a call from the stall aunty saying Dad fainted at the stall and was sent to the hospital by the ambulance.
I panicked... remembering seeing him rubbing his tummy this morning when i was opening the gate to go work, he smile and reply he has diahorroea. Told him to see a doctor later on and off i went to work. Bro drove me in Dad's car as i was late...
Lunch was miserable, kept calling home but no one picks up the calls. And when Sis called to says that the doctor informed that Dad has a bad stroke, my heart sunk!!! We were asked to make decision on whether to authorise the 'booster' jab while successful will add 15 - 30% of chance to clear the blockage but risking internal bleeding which is undesirable. We agree to go ahead as we believe Dad will want to gamble on even the sligest percentage!
It has been 9 days... Waking up early to run Dad stall and return home late, visiting him twice daily, fetching Mum to the hospital... seeing him totally concious and desperate to talk and move his limbs, trying hard to understand the sound he made, seeing him in a sunken state, tolerating the lack of nurses and hospitality towards taking care of Dad... Tears just well up whenever i thought of it!
PHEW!!! That rented car was a blessing... Thanks to P4 for getting it at a cheap rate for me during CNY period.
Dad condition is stable, the come and go fever has subsided and got transferred to the rehabitation center yesterday. He has to start building up his lost strenght fast and speech and the 1st month is crucial.
With Sis & Bro running the stall now, Mum looking after the nephew and me working... WE NEED A CARETAKER!!!!
The few person that came to my mind instantly was Zeon, Rachel, Larry and Ashley! These are among the few friends whom i know will take on my problem whenever i voice out to them to recommend some maid agencies. I dont have time to do my own searching online as i was totally occupied and does not have internet access during the whole week driving up and down...
Been to a maid agency at Adelphi yesterday but the 2 'transit' maid didnt meet the family needs or i should say... 有一好没两. Those that speaks English although strong, looks like 'party' queen. Those that looks suitable doesnt speak English... although my Mum does speaks English and i do speak limited Malay... I still think i should go another agency before deciding! It was the 1st time the whole family agree in having a maid! In the past, we never wanted to have one in respect to family privacy.
Friends had been rather concern but it comes along with crude jokes in between when they dont understand why i didnt went to M'sia and after knowing - biting their own tongue (All Guys and not surprising to know)... the repetition of asking about my Dad condition and progress... I can only look and them and say... Like a typical stroke patient you see!
Went to work today... processing each paper work was SLOW, ignoring all phone calls! Jumping to reach my handphone whenever it rangs... KNN is the best word to express my day at work today and cursing and swearing softly at each mistake i made!!!
Thinking back... i would had break down if it wasnt that usual strong will power which helps to keeps me going...
Looking forward to see Dad walk, move his hands and talk again!
Have a speedy recovery...
God Bless!!!
There is a meaning behind each gift...
Thursday, January 13, 2011
*Ring* : 8:15 pm
*Ring* : 8:15 pm
Took with me her well wishes without even realising!!!
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De: Qi Ah
Para: Gabriela Alves
Enviadas: Sábado, 8 de Janeiro de 2011 4:11:22
Assunto: Saudades
Hi Gabi...
This email should come earlier than expected.
May i wish you and Tiago a very happy new year... Let whatever you both wish for be showered upon and to your love ones too!
Had been real busy on my job and helping out with close friends wedding arrangement... spending alot of time withmy family and also preparing nephew (2 yrs) in looking for school...
Personal wise... i am not making any progress... still the old me! Smoking, being the joker and sharing my odd thoughts with friends whenever they come for some heart-sharing session about their personal life.
Oh... care for some gossip... I saw that 'dor de cotovelo' in Keppel but from a distance, still as charming but the heart doesnt beat as fast as i thought it would... Legs not shaking! Lets see if these two 'sticks' will start to tremble when i had to face him eye to eye... Ha!
Got to end this email, like any human being.... Its hard to forget some one thus even when without my email (vice-versa), your well-being and this fated-friendship will be chunk somewhere in my little head!
Do excel... Keep going... In career, love, family, and personal life... watch your health while juggling all these!
Look at your wrist and you will see me... About that long hugging arms... My nephew love it so much... so does my sister... so it became their ownership now... seeing it remind me how you are doing!
Beijos,
Ivy Soh Wei Chyi
阿琦
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Date: Wed, 12 Jan 2011 10:54:43 -0800
From: Gabriela Alves
De: Qi Ah
Para: Gabriela Alves
Enviadas: Sábado, 8 de Janeiro de 2011 4:11:22
Assunto: Saudades
Hi Gabi...
This email should come earlier than expected.
May i wish you and Tiago a very happy new year... Let whatever you both wish for be showered upon and to your love ones too!
Had been real busy on my job and helping out with close friends wedding arrangement... spending alot of time withmy family and also preparing nephew (2 yrs) in looking for school...
Personal wise... i am not making any progress... still the old me! Smoking, being the joker and sharing my odd thoughts with friends whenever they come for some heart-sharing session about their personal life.
Oh... care for some gossip... I saw that 'dor de cotovelo' in Keppel but from a distance, still as charming but the heart doesnt beat as fast as i thought it would... Legs not shaking! Lets see if these two 'sticks' will start to tremble when i had to face him eye to eye... Ha!
Got to end this email, like any human being.... Its hard to forget some one thus even when without my email (vice-versa), your well-being and this fated-friendship will be chunk somewhere in my little head!
Do excel... Keep going... In career, love, family, and personal life... watch your health while juggling all these!
Look at your wrist and you will see me... About that long hugging arms... My nephew love it so much... so does my sister... so it became their ownership now... seeing it remind me how you are doing!
Beijos,
Ivy Soh Wei Chyi
阿琦
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Date: Wed, 12 Jan 2011 10:54:43 -0800
From: Gabriela Alves
Subject: Res: Saudades
To: Ivy Soh
To: Ivy Soh
Hi Ivy,
Thanks! We (Diego & I) wish you and your family a very Happy New Year as well, filled with joy and peace.
Things for me are pretty much the same, but I am now working at OSX like I wanted to, so the year started out on a good note for me.
I believe we are constantly progressing even if seems we are not changing much, so I’m sure when we meet again, in a few years, you’ll seem very changed to me, but still the same helpful and fun person you are.
The break up is still kinda recent so It’s normal to feel a little something for the guy, but the longer you stay away the less you’ll feel for him when you see him again.
You are always in my thoughts and prayers, and will always be a cherished friend regardless of the distance.
Every time I look at my watch I think “I wonder what Ivy is doing right now” and then I remember “she’s probably sleeping” hehehe.
I’m glad your nephew and sister liked the big huh.,,,when I bought you the shirt I imagined the girl on it as being you climbing the corporate ladder or steps in life…always moving up…and the pink cat, as opposed to a black cat, as good luck in your life, which is what I wish for you.Beijos,
Gabi
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Me & Gabi didnt started off as close colleagues... i met her on my 1st day at work back in Oct 2007 in Technip-Rio office. Her name was mentioned as one of those Brazilian ladies talking bad about me behind my back!
'This lady is so skinny, she must be having some kind of mental illness to be so slim... who knows she might be digging her throat right after each meal' Ha, till date i didnt even bothered to asked if its was true!
Well... there are also gossips about her saying that she was so full of herself, proud and think she is the most pretty lady in the whole Technip building.Couldnt remember how we got so close even when she left Technip (both took effort to meet up once every month for lunch or dinner) for a better local company but one thing that really took me by surprise was the time when i fractured my nose bridge, she issued a cheque (BRL 699) to the hospital for my anesthetic as the hospital in Brazil does not accept such dosage procedure to be paid using the company medical insurance and neither do they accept cash. I can only placed a cheques to the hospital and then the insurance company will reimburse in cash back to me after then. Sounds crazy eh?
At that moment, i was touched, thinking why would she want to risk me not paying her back... knowing that any typical Brazilian do not have the habit to save up their monthly earnings and she will be very tight-up if the insurance company took forever to process this claim.
There was another thing about her that made me admire her so much, that so-sure responds to hang on for love... to accept a guy who was 11 years younger as her lawful husband. Looking at the aplenty challenges that she will face in this relationship makes me pray to God silently... please let her have the power to keep going!
Hmmm... never will i imagine that there is a friend right there in Rio waiting to meet up with me... To had to fly 10,000 miles before realising there is someone who awaits me for 26 years... This is what i term destiny!!!
I ought to stop rambling... Dinner time!
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Random...
Monday, December 20, 2010
*Ring* : 11:13 am
*Ring* : 11:13 am
The dream was fading fast, i couldnt recall the least bit of content but it sure is a good one to be able to see his smiling face! See 25 January 2009 confess, thats the only photo i had of him!
Rekindled the past, he didnt made it to Secondary 4 and i was among the very few bad conduct students whom made it to N levels and surprisingly deserved a bursary! Ha - Who heard of Ah Lian being awarded for one?
He asked one of the classmates to pass me a message during last day of school but whether its true or not, i wasnt sure and dont bother to find out!
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Its been 2 months since i am back from Brazil... I noticed 2 main change after this return, which i consider it as something vital to have in life... Self-discipline & the Strinking of Social Circle.
I had gone SUPER lazy, reluntant to wake up on time to catch the company transport @ 6.10am! Totally making full use of the luxury to flag down a cab during peak hours for the past 8 weeks which all these $$$ could be well spent on other areas!
Looking back... I never have problem waking up for work in RIO, no matter how tired i was or how late i stayed up last night... i will still drag myself up from bed and get the car out from the carpark lot to wait for the others! Maybe its due to having a DUTY to drive my colleagues and boss to workplace ahead of time! Well, now i am without this responsibility!!!
Hmmm... I believe humans must had a responsibility or purpose to be discipline! It make me think of letting all these money be well spent on my nephew education! We (the mother of the kid is doing most of the searching) are looking for a childcare centre to enroll our smart boy for SCHOOL! I should wake up early and invest these money to the monthly fee!
Seems great isnt it?! Since i am single and without the need to purchase a car, flat or wedding!
Next - Friends were either married or had started a family... Well, for my age - it ought to be this period of time!
Since most of my friends are mainly guys thus its best to stay a distance... who knows when their wife have PMS and start 'using' my presence to trigger a fight!
Haiz... Without my bunch of party animals, hitting the clubs and pub-hopping was almost ZERO! BUT, its not gonna STOP me from liking to be surrounded by loud music...
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Christmas is only a few days away... it dwell me back to 2009 X'mas - Trip to Sao Paulo! It was also this trip, the chance-upon smoking before bedtime, the conversation, the cold night, my bold character and his ACT NATURAL character that drew us closer in knowing each other!
Not harbouring the thoughts of being together... I rather stay single than to have such a person as my lifetime partner!
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Friend: Dont you find a need to have a guy by your side?
Me: They dont stay!
Friend: You are a bit too tough and independant.
Me: I think i am happy even i cant find that someone.
Friend: By using the word THINK, you are UNSURE!
Me: ... *Ponder* Am I? Cant someone be happy without a life partner?
How time flies... Memories fade and rekindled and SOON it will be 2011. Again, me writing about my thoughts / happening for 2011 and welcome the auspicious 2012!
Rekindled the past, he didnt made it to Secondary 4 and i was among the very few bad conduct students whom made it to N levels and surprisingly deserved a bursary! Ha - Who heard of Ah Lian being awarded for one?
He asked one of the classmates to pass me a message during last day of school but whether its true or not, i wasnt sure and dont bother to find out!
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Its been 2 months since i am back from Brazil... I noticed 2 main change after this return, which i consider it as something vital to have in life... Self-discipline & the Strinking of Social Circle.
I had gone SUPER lazy, reluntant to wake up on time to catch the company transport @ 6.10am! Totally making full use of the luxury to flag down a cab during peak hours for the past 8 weeks which all these $$$ could be well spent on other areas!
Looking back... I never have problem waking up for work in RIO, no matter how tired i was or how late i stayed up last night... i will still drag myself up from bed and get the car out from the carpark lot to wait for the others! Maybe its due to having a DUTY to drive my colleagues and boss to workplace ahead of time! Well, now i am without this responsibility!!!
Hmmm... I believe humans must had a responsibility or purpose to be discipline! It make me think of letting all these money be well spent on my nephew education! We (the mother of the kid is doing most of the searching) are looking for a childcare centre to enroll our smart boy for SCHOOL! I should wake up early and invest these money to the monthly fee!
Seems great isnt it?! Since i am single and without the need to purchase a car, flat or wedding!
Next - Friends were either married or had started a family... Well, for my age - it ought to be this period of time!
Since most of my friends are mainly guys thus its best to stay a distance... who knows when their wife have PMS and start 'using' my presence to trigger a fight!
Haiz... Without my bunch of party animals, hitting the clubs and pub-hopping was almost ZERO! BUT, its not gonna STOP me from liking to be surrounded by loud music...
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Christmas is only a few days away... it dwell me back to 2009 X'mas - Trip to Sao Paulo! It was also this trip, the chance-upon smoking before bedtime, the conversation, the cold night, my bold character and his ACT NATURAL character that drew us closer in knowing each other!
Not harbouring the thoughts of being together... I rather stay single than to have such a person as my lifetime partner!
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Friend: Dont you find a need to have a guy by your side?
Me: They dont stay!
Friend: You are a bit too tough and independant.
Me: I think i am happy even i cant find that someone.
Friend: By using the word THINK, you are UNSURE!
Me: ... *Ponder* Am I? Cant someone be happy without a life partner?
How time flies... Memories fade and rekindled and SOON it will be 2011. Again, me writing about my thoughts / happening for 2011 and welcome the auspicious 2012!
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